Last week my dear friend, Charis - along with two friends, journeyed to our hometown to remember her mothers passing four years ago. I cannot help to be thinking of her... missing Gingers laugh, her sweet eyes.
I've been numb for so long, but the trip to the ocean was freeing: maybe it was jumping in the waves like little girls, getting sand in our eyes like I hated so much as a kid, or maybe it was because I was remembering...the memories. What an amazing gift these two woman gave me - the joy they gave me as a child, the freedom to be a kid.
Aunt Carol was so relaxed. She and my mom would catch up in life on the porch while my cousins, my siblings, and I would roam our farm or theirs...getting into mischief doing whatever our wild imaginations told us to do. Her head was a well of knowledge...anything you would need to know about horses, cows, cooking.... We would have insanely fun and loud Thanksgivings with both families' and then go on crazy "girl only" black Friday shopping adventures where we usually ended up eating our weight in doughnuts while the boys scavenged for fish or whittled swords in our absence.
Lovely Ginger was organized. From the tea dates that Charis and I frequently enjoyed to the epic scavenger hunts that she so carefully planned, Ginger was always having so much fun being a mom, being my moms friend, being our friend. Her house was laced with grace and warmth, projects all the time, kids to play with and snacks. Always healthy, yummy, snacks.
Both women were role models then and now of whom I've wanted to be, they have shaped me into the person that I am.
And I will always miss them.
I miss them also for those that I love and whom they loved so dear. I just plain miss them....
...but its okay to cry sometimes, its okay to want them back with us here.
We just have to remember not to get bitter when life is unfair, we have to remember the gifts that they left us and to cherish the memories that we hold in our hearts.
With love to Auntie Carol and to Ginger Martin. May you forever rest in peace - beautiful, beautiful women. - Kirsten Elaine Nibler
17, April 2014
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a photo I found in Charis' baby book when we were home last weekend. Martin home, Spring 1993
Kirsten 5 yr. - Charis 6 yrs.
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